Have you ever left an event and thought: “My God, those people are dull.” “People were so rude.” “No one made me feel welcome.” “Blimey, I’m not doing that again.” And by the time you get home, it’s not just the event. It’s confirmation – “The art world isn’t for me.”
But if that’s the story you keep leaving with… it’s worth asking what’s really going on – After all, not everyone in that room can be an arsehole.
What you think you’re reading in a room is often not the room at all. Your brain is wired to detect threat. Not physical threat. Social threat.
A look. A short answer. A pause. And your brain fills in the gaps: “They’re not interested.” “I’ve said the wrong thing.” “I don’t belong here.”
So, you withdraw. You close down. You leave early.
And just like that… you’ve created the very experience you were trying to avoid and stop attending events – and miss out on all that they offer.
That’s the loop.
This week – I’m giving you a simple way to interrupt that negative loop.
